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Body Language Speaks

The very best instrument there is for finding out what is going on with a person is her body. The state of the body will be a reflection of her overall state. That information is very useful, both to the person herself and to a process facilitator.

The best thing is if the person herself is in tune with her body and she feels what is going on with it. But even if she doesn't, the facilitator will be able to pick up much information.
A person's external body language speaks volumes. By observing somebody's posture, eye movements, breathing and skin color, you can gain information about what she is doing in her mind. You can get the same information by listening to the qualities of her tone of voice. And this is without being psychic, just by looking and listening. If you add a bit of ESP to it, it just gets much easier.

Body language is a big subject and to master the reading of it to perfection requires a good deal of training and experience. Here we will just present some of the most practical things you can notice.

In the absence of knowing what different body movements mean, you can simply notice when there is a change in the client's body. For example, if she is sitting perfectly still and suddenly starts twitching or moving her eyes - that is a change. Or if she changes her rate of breathing - that is a change.

Let's say you have asked the client to close her eyes and move back to a past incident. At first she is just sitting still, her eyes not moving. But suddenly you can see her eyes moving behind her eyelids and her head is jerking a little bit, and maybe her breathing gets faster. Well, that most likely means that she found an incident. Interestingly, she might not herself have noticed that. Subconsciously she has the incident right there, but consciously she might not have acknowledged it. So, if she doesn't start speaking by herself you can say "What's that?", or "What do you see?"

If we are dealing with an incident, the body will often show what is in it, or how she relates to it. If her eyeballs are moving, it means that there is something to look at. If she suddenly breathes pantingly, it means something exciting or stressful is going on.

If the client is leaning forward, she is probably into the incident, involved directly in the action. If she is leaning back, she is probably seeing it from a distance.

You can not be sure, just from a specific body motion, what is going on. But it gives you a very good idea. Particularly when you notice the changes in response to your directions. If you ask "Is there another viewpoint in the incident?" and she suddenly leans back, that probably means that it is an external viewpoint, seeing things from a distance.

There are a whole set of signals that tell you what kind of perceptions the person is accessing. To make things simple, we can divide body perceptions into Visual, Auditory, and Kinesthetic. I.e. pictures, sounds, and feelings. That is not only what the person mostly takes in in the present, it is also mostly what she has stored in her mind. Most of what you find in the mind is made out of some sort of combination of pictures, sounds, and feelings. When the person accesses an item in her mind her body will tend to reflect what kind of information it is, if it predominantly has pictures, sounds, or feelings.

Feeling has a low frequency, it is slow and deep. Auditory has a higher frequency, it is faster, more mobile. Visual is high frequency, fast and changeable. These qualities show in various ways in the body.

A person will breathe shallowly and high in the chest when accessing visual information. She will breathe deeply and slowly when accessing kinesthetic information. And somewhere in between when accessing auditory information.

When accessing visual information, the person will tend to look up, straighten up her body, and make gestures into space. When accessing auditory, she will tend to look to the side, maybe slant her head and cross her arms. When accessing kinesthetic, she will tend to look down and slump over.

The person will speak faster and more high-pitch when accessing visual information than when accessing auditory information. When accessing kinesthetic she will speak with a lower, slower tone of voice.

You can be more or less of a specialist in interpreting all these body reactions. You don't really need to know them all that well to do basic processing. As long as you notice that there are changes and reactions, and you notice when the client is looking happy and content, and when she isn't, then you can do just fine in your sessions.

But if you know body language really well you can do magic with it. People will swear that you are reading their minds, when really you are just looking at them.

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Beat The Stress: Laugh At Short Funny Jokes

Stress is a staple part of life. Contrary to popular belief, stress can actually come from almost every situation whether they bring excitement, happiness, sadness of anxiety. What makes this a thing of complexity is that stress actually differs from person to person. On the other hand, no matter how complicated the math of stress may be, the mere act of laughing at short funny jokes, expressing feelings, and smiling could release one of the perils of stress.

Stress’ effect on the body is contingent upon its intensity. In small quantities, stress can be a source of productivity and motivation. However, too much of it could yield adverse emotional, physical and mental effects for a person. In fact, experiencing too much stress could result to depression, heart disease and infection. It is also said to be one of the causes of overeating, alcoholism, and drug abuse. Fluctuating emotional states, low blood sugar, heart diseases, and overactive thyroids are also believed by science to be some effects of stress.

The fast-paced world clouded by the pressures of work and the demands of living compounds stress. This is why spa and sauna businesses have been a booming industry in the recent years because people are made to believe that availing their services is the only effective means to de-stress. However, there is no need to go on a money splurging activity to relieve stress. Here are some simple ways by which you could deal with stress without having to burn some cash.

1. Learn to smile.
Don’t undermine the power of smiling. Take every opportunity to flash that million dollar smile. As surprising as it may seem, smiling could actually lighten a very unpleasant situation.

2. Talk about what stresses you.
Talking about problems and sources of anxiety is a great way to release the burden of having to deal with a stressful day. It doesn’t only relieve stress; it also enriches your social life and keeps you in touch with friends and family.

3. Keep a journal and write about your feelings.
There are some people who might not be that comfortable sharing their emotions to others no matter how close they are to the person. When such is the case, journal writing is the way to go. Writing about what happened during the day is a manner of cleansing oneself of all the anxieties during a hard day at work.

4. Reading a book that interests you.
Reading a good book increases your knowledge, and do well for your overall health. A really inspiring book can elicit a feeling of lightness and motivation in a person. Sometimes, it can even encourage a person to act on life-changing decisions.

5. Laughing at short funny jokes.
Studies show that 40% of people who have heart diseases are less likely to be inclined to laughing. As funny as it may seem, laughter might just be the cheapest and easiest way to relieve stress. Joking around with friends, watching funny films or TV shows and reading funny comics are cheap and fun solutions to de-stress.

Stress may be part of everyday living, but that doesn’t necessarily equate to letting it through and take over. Accentuating the positive is a solution to deal with it. After all, stress is not what occurs; it’s how one reacts to it.

By: Joe Owens

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Do You Know About The Ira Rollover Frequency Rule?

If you’re concerned about the IRA rollover frequency, you may need a little more information, as well. One gentleman that I know of, thinking that he understood all about a rollover into IRA incurred heavy tax penalties. Here’s how to avoid making the same mistake.

First of all, the IRA rollover frequency does not apply to “transfers”. You might think that transfers and rollovers are the same thing. If so, you’re not alone. Many custodial companies use the terms interchangeably and that causes a great deal of confusion among account holders.

I’m not sure if the use of the terms is meant to confuse or if the custodians assume that their clients know the difference. But, either way, it is important to note that transferring the fund directly from one custodian to another is a safer transaction for many reasons. This is just one.

When converting a rollover into IRA funds, a check is mailed directly to you and the transaction is reported to the IRS. Transfers are not reported and you don’t have to worry about when or if the check will arrive in the mail. So, I always recommend a transfer, rather than a rollover into IRA.

Currently the maximum allowed IRA rollover frequency is once during a 12 month period. You could transfer the fund as often as you liked, without incurring taxes. Although, it is wise to check out the custodial company that you are considering, before you make the transfer, simply, because the custodian could charge an early withdrawal penalty or something similar.

If you feel that now is the time to make a change, you might be unhappy with the returns that you are currently seeing on your investments. If that is the case, then you may want to consider a rollover into IRA of the self-directed type.

Most custodial companies offer some choices, but with a truly self-directed account, your investment choices are only limited by the applicable tax laws. There are many investment types that are allowed and can be highly profitable. Many people think they are limited to stock or money market funds. Again, that confusion is caused by the custodial companies.

For example, most custodians do not allow their clients to invest in real estate, unless the real estate is held by a company and the retirement account simply owns stock in the company. This just complicates the whole process.

If you adhere to the IRA rollover frequency and you choose the right self-directed custodian, your account can hold title to land, houses or any other type of real property, as long as you don’t live in it or plan to in the future. This could allow your account to earn regular rental incomes or make a quick profit. It’s all up to you.

When you make a rollover into IRA, you usually have a large amount of un-invested cash. So, that’s the time to think about investing in something other than the stock market. As long as you abide by the IRA rollover frequency limitations, you’ll be okay. Just take the time to learn a little more, before you begin. If you have a few minutes to spare, please feel free to browse through my website.

By: Gordi

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